Thoughts on Bullying

  • Posted on October 13, 2010 at 7:22 pm

Tonight I want to talk about what everyone else is talking about – the sad state of affairs in the lives of our American children. In the last two decades we have had to add new words to our parental and societal vocabulary. Words like: Bullycide, Sexting, Cyber-Bullying, school violence, lockdowns, etc..

While I sit here tonight as an American woman, mother, and grandmother, I wonder. I wonder about all the things that have happened in the last two decades to cause such unrest in our children. I am deeply saddened for the parents of the victims of the bullies. I cannot bring my mind to understand the thought of hating someone so much I would be willing to consciously watch them suffer, whither, and die.

How can you listen to the cries for mercy and take that as a que to inflict more pain and suffering on another human being? What in your mind causes you to believe that attacking a disabled child is an admirable act? What in your mind causes you to believe that you have the right to decide who is worthy of life and who is not?

I, as a woman, cannot walk proudly beside those of you girls who feel that bullying is right; and even if you don’t feel it is right and do it anyway, I am ashamed and embarrassed of and for you as a fellow female of the human species. Your mothers, your grandmothers, your great-grandmothers, and their grandmothers before them have fought for centuries to be treated like human beings – to live without daily beatings, subjugation, and oppression. In two short decades you have taken all of our effort and thrown it out like yesterday’s garbage.

You, my dear girls, are the mothers of tomorrow. Remember these days you are living in now, and when you look into the eyes of your precious daughter, know that you created the hell in which they will also live. They may not rise to the challenge of becoming the ‘Queen Bee’. They may be the one with the disability. They may be the one who is different. Only you can stop the madness that has been started by choosing not to participate. How many of you will have to lose their lives before you understand that life is a precious thing that can be lost in a single word spoken in hate?

Bullying is not cool.

2 Comments on Thoughts on Bullying

  1. Avatar of Mac Mac says:

    Great thoughts. I’m starting to think that the resolution to this problem is to stop trying to understand what motivates the bully and begin to teach tools of empowerment to everyone else.
    Time (karma) seems to have a way of giving bullies what they deserve. We need to help the non-bullies devise strategies to rise above the hell they’re enduring at the moment so they can shine tomorrow.

  2. Avatar of prairiewomn prairiewomn says:

    Mac, I approved your earlier today and when I came back to respond it was under the Unapproved category again. I don’t want you to think that I didn’t value what you had to say.

    You are probably right. It’s beyond the point of understanding and we need to help our kids / grandkids develop antibully tools. I think one of those tools should be leading by example. Thanks for your comment.

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